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DEAR ABBY: You recently advised a 15-year-old virgin whose boyfriend threatened to dump her if she didn't have sex with him, that SHE should dump HIM.

You said, "There are plenty of fish in the sea." Well, you're right, but all the fish want the same thing, and if she doesn't give it to him, some little slut will, and she will go to her grave with her virginity.Face it, Abby, good girls end up alone. - BEEN THERE

DEAR BEEN THERE: Wrong! I constantly hear from men who say they'd give their right arm to meet a girl with good old-fashioned values. Read on:

DEAR ABBY: I have a message for the young girl whose boyfriend had been pressuring her for sex: Don't give in! I was in the same spot when I was your age and, I'm sorry to say, I wasn't strong enough to hold out. I'm not putting all the blame on him, because I was a willing partner, but once I lost my virginity, it was easy to have sex again - and not always with the same partner.

Abby, please keep telling girls to save their virginity for their wedding night. - SORRY I DIDN'T

DEAR SORRY: Thank you for writing. I hope those who need to heed your message get the message.

DEAR ABBY: Darryl and I were recently married. While we were having dinner together at a popular restaurant, a woman who was a close friend of Darryl's former girlfriend stopped by our table to speak to Darryl.

He introduced me as his wife and put his arm around me. Abby, the friend made no acknowledgment of me. Instead, she started telling Darryl what "Sheila," his former girlfriend, was up to. She stood there talking about Sheila until our food arrived.

When she finally left, she said to Darryl, "I'll tell Sheila you asked about her."

Abby, he didn't ask about Sheila at all - she just started talking about this girl! What should I (or Darryl) have done or said? - BUGGED IN MINNESOTA

DEAR BUGGED: You behaved appropriately by remaining silent. If Darryl had been a little swifter, he might have pointed out that he did not ask about Sheila. But since he didn't, you were wise not to have made an issue of it.

DEAR ABBY: Today I renewed a prescription for 20 pills containing barbiturates. The last refill (eight months ago) was one pill short; today the refill was also one pill short. I reported the shortage the first time; today I counted the pills in front of the pharmacist. He apologized and said that the pill-counting machine sometimes "acts up," which is possible, but the issue here is not the money, and we're not talking about jelly beans. We are talking about a 5 percent discrepancy in a prescription for a powerful drug.

I have written a letter to the pharmacy's corporate headquarters. Is my experience unusual, or are other people having the same experience? - JUDITH O'HALLORAN-ROSEN, VENICE, CALIF.

DEAR JUDITH: Since pill-counting machines are fallible, it's possible for errors to occur. But now that you've called attention to that possibility, with the price of pills not easily swallowed, it's wise to count the little critters before leaving the store.

DEAR ABBY: This is just a note of thanks for your endeavors and articles with regard to laboratory animal abuse.

I understand that you urged Maryland state legislators to pass a historic bill that would have made Maryland the first state to outlaw blinding and poisoning tests on animals by cosmetic and household product manufacturers.

Abby, please continue your heroic efforts. Those who cannot speak need all the help they can get. - FRANCINE MEINELSCHMIDT, MIRAMAR, FLA.

C) 1989 Universal Press Syndicate