DEAR ABBY: I was the project officer for Operation Dear Abby in Korea for the 1988-1989 holiday season. During this time, about 75,000 pieces of mail were sent to our servicemen and women in Korea. The 55 military chaplains in Korea handled the distribution of those letters, and we tried our best to make sure every letter was personally handed to a U.S. servicemember.
I want to thank all the Dear Abby readers who responded so generously. Many of the servicemembers "traded" letters, and some of those letters became separated from their envelopes and addresses were lost. So, those who write should have their names and addresses on both the letters and envelopes.Don't wait for Christmas. Please keep those letters comin' any time of year. They are great morale boosters! - GEORGE W. BEARDEN, CHAPLAIN (MAJOR) U.S. ARMY
DEAR MAJOR BEARDEN: All right, you asked for it. Readers, write to a lonely servicemember. There are women as well as men in the service, you know. Address your letters to: OPERATION DEAR ABBY, AMERICA REMEMBERS, U.S. FORCES IN KOREA, APO SAN FRANCISCO 96202.
DEAR ABBY: I'm in shock and really need your help. My brother just called from out of state, telling me that he is retiring this month, and he and his wife want to come and stay with my husband and me for three weeks! Abby, I love my brother dearly, but I am 71 and my husband is 76, and I just can't handle it.
I am active in my church, do volunteer work at the hospital two days a week, have church choir, plus my regular housekeeping chores, and I cannot cook for houseguests every night.
But how do I put this into words without sounding inhospitable? Just the thought of having houseguests sets my head to spinning! Our guest room is filled with things we're not using, and I'm just not up to the job of cleaning it up right now.
My husband is a dear and reasonable man. He's retired and is not in the greatest of health.
Please help me find the courage and the words. - COUNTING ON YOU
DEAR COUNTING: The courage you must find yourself, but perhaps I can help you with the words.
Call your brother and tell him that you love him dearly, but you cannot handle having houseguests for three weeks. Tell him that your husband has not been in the best of health and your guest room is being used for storing things, and much as you would enjoy seeing them, you are unable to accommodate them. Then offer to make reservations for them at a nearby motel - and quote the rates.
Sign off with: "My how time flies! Can you believe that your sister is now 71, and her husband is 76?"
DEAR ABBY: My friend and I have a $10 bet. She insists that Phil Donahue is bald! She said she saw him on his own show and he was totally bald - he didn't have even one hair on his head. She swears she saw it with her own eyes.
Abby, I am sure Phil Donahue is not bald, but I can't convince my friend. Can you please find out for sure. If you say so, she will take your word for it. Please help me with this bet. I know I can count on you. - K. KEE IN TRAFFORD, PA.
DEAR K.: Phil Donahue bald? Absolutely not! That lush white thatch you see on his head is human hair - and it's all his!
I watch the Donahue show every day, and I recall the show your friend is referring to. It dealt with baldness, and in it Phil donned a skintight, flesh-colored rubber cap that gave him the appearance of being totally bald. The effect was amazingly realistic. Your friend owes you $10.
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