DEAR ABBY: My husband (I'll call him Bill) and I have been married for four years after going together for three years. While we were going together, Bill grew a beard just to see how he'd look. We both liked the beard, so he kept it. His mother didn't like it, so he compromised and shaved the beard but kept the mustache. I didn't like the "baby-faced" look with no beard, so he grew it back again.
Bill was in construction work when his best friend offered him a job as a salesman. Bill did very well in his training period as a salesman, then his best friend asked him to shave off his beard. I didn't want him to, but his best friend won, and Bill was baby-faced again.Abby, for two weeks I couldn't even bring myself to kiss him, let alone make love to him. He accused me of punishing him for going along with his best friend's wishes instead of mine, which was not true. I just find him much more appealing with a beard. Am I wrong for feeling this way? - BABY FACE'S WIFE
DEAR WIFE: You are not responsible for your feelings, only your actions. Your husband has the right to wear a beard or be clean-shaven for whatever his reasons, so please don't turn this bristly issue into a power struggle between you and Bill's best friend.
DEAR ABBY: For the last two months, I have been talking on the telephone with a young woman whose company does business with the company I work for. (I am a 30-year-old single male.) I really like this woman's voice, her manner and sense of humor. I told her I liked her voice and she said, "What a coincidence. I like yours, too." I also told her I was 30 and unmarried - then she volunteered that she was 28 and unmarried. As you probably can guess, I would like to meet her. Her office is on the other side of town and a lunch date is not possible, so I'm considering asking her for a dinner date.
I room with another guy. He said, "You'd be crazy to make a dinner date with her - she will probably turn out to be a dog."
What do you think, Abby? - L.A. BACHELOR
DEAR BACHELOR: Ask her anyway. She's risking as much as you. But don't get your hopes up. She may think you're a nerd.
DEAR ABBY: I can top Dorothy Aliperto, who was born at The Swedish Hospital in Minneapolis in 1930. Her mother's hospital bill was $41.45 for a 10-day stay.
My husband was born in 1910 at the St. Francis de Sales Hospital in Smith Falls, Ontario, Canada. I am enclosing his mother's hospital bill:
10 days at $1.25 per day . . . $12.50
Operating room service . . . $5.00
Subtotal . . . $ 17.50
Discount for cash . . . .75
TOTAL . . . $16.75
- MRS. M.M. KELLY, SMITH FALLS, ONTARIO
DEAR MRS. KELLY: You win. I doubt if anyone can top this. Of course, this was 80 years ago, and in Canada. My, my, how times have changed!
P.S. The 75 cents discount for cash floored me.
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