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When Scud missiles dropped aimlessly and unhindered during the early hours of the gulf war, Audrey Rogers couldn't get enough news from the front.

"I'd go crazy until I got off work," she said. "I just had to know what had happened that day. It was scary."News from the front Tuesday night brought cheer to the Rogers' household: Allen, her husband and father of two of their children, will be coming home next week.

"I've felt a lot of emotions for the last seven months, and now I can't wait to experience what it will feel like when he steps off that plane," she said.

Rogers joined a group of about 150 wives meeting Wednesday to talk about the challenges of reunion after a long separation.

Most of the wives received news Tuesday that their husbands, who serviced aircraft of the 388th Tactical Fighter Wing during the war, will return home at the end of next week.

Base officials told the wives that reuniting after a long separation isn't as easy as it seems.

"Both you and he have expectations about what things will be like when he gets home - and what you think may be different," Dave Larsen, a councilor from the Family Support Center, told the group.

One of those differences is a newfound independence many wives develop while their husbands are away, he said. "A lot of guys are intimidated by that and need to be reassured that they are needed."

Despite those differences, Laura Eubanks is confident she and her husband, Jon, will enjoy a happy homecoming.

A separation three years ago when Jon served a yearlong tour of duty in Korea will help the couple work through any challenges they encounter, she said.

"We know what it's like and know how to talk about it. We're just excited to get Daddy back," she said.

Eubanks said the seven months of detachment "actually went by quickly."

A full load of classes at Weber State University and her three children helped pass the time.

Rogers passed the time working as a cake decorator at Harmon's grocery store. She also remodeled the couple's bedroom, buying new furniture and carpet.

"I even fixed a broken pipe in our basement - I didn't want to pay somebody $32 an hour, so I just did it myself," she said.

Larsen told the wives that their husbands might feel surprised or hurt that they've coped so well.

"Talk about it and renegotiate your roles if needed," he said.