Dear Abby: Your column about whether to wear a sexy low-cut dress to a class reunion dinner dance prompts this letter.
My college graduation class celebrated its 50th reunion in 1987. When I was a freshman, my parents bought me a red crepe formal, cut on the bias. It had spaghetti straps, was rather low-cut, and had rhinestones two inches apart all over it. I loved that dress and wore it many times. (Who could afford more than one evening gown then? It was right in the middle of the Depression.)When I married in June 1937, I took that dress with me. It hung in my closet for years, and although I never wore it, I just couldn't bring myself to get rid of it.
Finally, when my 50th college class reunion took place, I wore that red dress again. A 70-year-old female classmate spied me across the dance floor and shouted, "Nina! I hate you - I can't believe you can still get into that dress!"
Abby, I'm enclosing a picture of myself in that clinging red dress at the reunion banquet. When you're through laughing, please destroy it.
- Nina D. in Dallas
Dear Nina: I will not destroy that picture. I think you look fabulous! That red gown is much better looking than the gowns they're showing today - and with combat boots yet!
Dear Abby: The man I am engaged to marry has asked me to sign a prenuptial agreement. We are both in our mid-30s, and this is a first marriage for both of us.
Although I have agreed to sign the document, I am having second thoughts. While my fiance looks at it as the "smart" thing to do in this day and age, I perceive it as a lack of good faith and trust in me and our relationship. Although I am a career woman and make a nice living, he does earn and will bring into our marriage far more than I do.
I would appreciate some feedback from you and/or other women who have encountered this situation. Sign me . . .
Dear Apprehensive: Don't jump to any conclusions. A prenuptial agreement is not necessarily a vote of no confidence. I perceive it as a very good idea. Should a couple dissolve their marriage (and my mail tells me that 60 percent of all American couples do), there will be no surprises and no legal hassles over who gets the silver, stereo, the kids or the pets.
Your fiance is obviously a cautious and farsighted man. However, it is always wise to consult your own legal adviser before signing anything.
Dear Abby: Please alert your readers to a rarely mentioned hazard of winter driving. I was recently on an emergency trip in a police car with the siren screaming, and at every intersection, we nearly collided with other cars because the drivers had their windows closed and their radios on.
- A Jesuit, St. Joseph's
Parish, Yakima, Wash.
Dear Jesuit: Thanks for the tip. The same situation can also occur in summertime, when drivers have their windows rolled up because of air conditioning.
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