Dear Abby: I am a 40-year-old woman with a Ph.D., and I also happen to be married.
Although I love my husband, I prefer to be addressed as "Dr." rather than "Mrs." However, this seems to be a problem for most people. Would it be impolite of me to correct someone who has addressed me as "Mrs."?What, if anything, should I say to such a person?
- Dr. Findley
Dear Dr. Findley: I would not recommend correcting a person for failing to address you as "Doctor." However, if you are asked how you prefer to be addressed, it is quite proper to state your preference.
But keep this story in mind: A gentleman with a Ph.D. in English literature was a passenger on an airline when another passenger suffered a heart attack, and the captain immediately summoned "Dr. Smith" to administer medical attention.
The very embarrassed "doctor" begged off, explaining he wasn't a medical doctor.
Dear Abby: My mother is a recent leg amputee, and I heard that some time ago you published the name of an organization that matches up shoes for one-legged people. Any advice will be very much appreciated.
- St. Petersburg Reader
Dear Reader: You heard right. The organization provides a computerized service to match potential partners to share the cost of shoes. It was started in 1986 by Georgia Hehr, an R.N. who needs only one shoe herself.
Open to any adult or teen whose feet have stopped growing, the program can benefit amputees, people wearing a brace on one foot, those with mismatched feet and anyone with a one-foot problem who still wears one regular shoe (United States and Canada only).
Those interested should contact The One Shoe Crew (TOSC), 86 Clavela Ave., Sacramento, Calif. 95828-4647. There is a onetime $3 registration fee; a onetime $10 partnership fee when a match is found; a $5 donation per shoe is requested but is waived if financial difficulty exists, plus $2.50 postage per shoe.
TOSC is non-profit - monetary donations and donations of new and unused single shoes and/or mismatched pairs are welcomed and are tax-deductible.
Dear Readers: A thought to ponder: "By working faithfully eight hours a day, you may eventually get to be a boss and work 12 hours a day." - Robert Frost
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