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Dear Abby: No wonder our society is going to the dogs; there are so few good role models these days. People talk about the immorality of our young people, but not only are young people immoral, a lot of seniors are also living in sin. It's disgusting!

My mother, who is in her 70s, invited a man to live with her after knowing him for only one week. He moved into her house faster than greased lightning. I am in shock.I believe Mother did this because she's lonely. She's getting on in years, and she decided she's going to do whatever she wants - and too bad about what people think! What a poor example she's setting for my children (her grandchildren). Of course, they know what's going on - they're not stupid.

I have proof that this man has a criminal record and can be violent. Should I inform Mother and risk her being angry with me, or should I just keep quiet? My husband thinks I should stay out of it. He says if we give this guy enough rope, he'll hang himself.

Please respond soon as I'm losing sleep over this.

- No Name, San Antonio

Dear No name: If you give your mother's roommate enough rope, he could also hang her. Share your proof of his criminal record and his history of violent behavior with her immediately. A word of caution, however: Cool your anger and judgmental attitude, or you may alienate her before you can deliver the message.

Dear Abby: In the letter signed "Desperate," a woman's son was coming home from college and bringing his live-in girlfriend, which threw his mother into a tizzy. She didn't approve of her son sleeping with his girlfriend under her roof. It reminded me of my own situation.

I was returning from Germany after 17 years of service in the U.S. Army and bringing with me Ingrid, my live-in girlfriend, and her son.

My father said Ingrid and I could not sleep together in his house. Easily fixed. Ingrid slept in the house with her son, and I slept in my parents' camping trailer. Because I respect my mother and father, in their home I live by their rules.

My father died two years ago, right after their 50th wedding anniversary, and I will continue to live by his rules while in their home. If you print this, please use my name. I want everyone to know how much I respect my parents.

- David Scriven, U.S. Army (ret.)

Dear David Scriven: Thank you for a heartwarming letter. To your credit, you obviously practice the commandment, "Honor thy father and thy mother."

Dear Abby: This is in response to "Loves to Move," the woman who moves from house to house even though her kids hate moving, because she loves hard work.

May I offer a suggestion? Why doesn't she start her own local moving company? That way, she can work hard, her teenagers can have the stability kids so desperately need, and she can make some money to send her kids to college. It's the perfect solution!

- Never Moving Again

Dear Never: Thank you for your moving letter.

Good advice for everyone - teens to seniors - is in "The Anger in All of Us and How to Deal With It." To order, send a business-size, self-addressed envelope, plus check or money order for $3.95 ($4.50 in Canada) to: Dear Abby, Anger Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. (Postage is included.)