Dear Abby: I am a grown woman with a good husband, two wonderful children and a full, busy life. I do a lot of driving and always allow myself time for getting lost.
Even if I have been there before, I get turned around and have to stop and ask for directions. Sometimes I have to stop and ask for directions two or three times. I am a careful driver and I am considered fairly intelligent, but I have absolutely no sense of direction.My husband says I get lost because I lack self-confidence and I set out expecting to get lost. Can that be? Are there others like me? Have you any suggestions?
- Gets Lost a Lot
Dear Gets Lost: Don't be ashamed. Some of our brainiest people get lost a lot. Recommended solution: When you start out, have written instructions on how to get where you're going. Should you get lost, stop at once and ask for help. (And be sure to listen carefully, so that you understand the directions.) Also, always take the phone number of the place you're headed for in case you want to call and ask how to get there. If that fails, carry a compass, a Bible and a survival kit.
Dear Abby: I am a happily married woman (22) and Mike is a wonderful, healthy, robust, masculine man of 25. We've been married a little over a year, and I have a problem I can't ask anyone else about. It has to do with sex.
Mike has a big appetite for sex, but I am not complaining. It's his timing that bothers me. He always wants to make love on Sunday morning before Mass. Abby, I know that love within marriage is not a sin, but for some silly reason I just hate to go to Mass right after having had sex. Lately I have been putting my husband off. But I feel guilty about that.
Do you think I should postpone the lovemaking until after Mass? Or should I keep telling myself I have no reason to feel guilty about it, and just try to get over that feeling? What's wrong with me?
- Maggie in Manhattan
Dear Maggie: Your problem is rooted in the notion that sex is sinful. You grew up believing it, and even though you're married and there is nothing to feel guilty about, you're still programmed to equate sex with sin. Talk to a priest, or a psychiatrist. (Try the priest first. It's cheaper.)
Dear Abby: I am a happily married 29-year-old woman. I recently changed jobs, and my problem is my supervisor. He's a conceited, middle-aged married man who fancies himself to be quite a fox. He keeps asking me to go out with him. I told him no from the start, but he kids me about it every day, and I go along with the kidding, pretending it's all in fun, but I know he is serious.
Abby, I don't want him for an enemy, so how can I get him to leave me alone without insulting him?
Dear Redhead: Tell him that you have a very tender conscience, and if you were ever to see him outside the office, you would surely break down and tell your husband - and HIS WIFE. That should cool him off.
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