"I've been thinking about weddings lately" were the opening words of Ann Cannon's article of May 6. She expressed appreciation of the TASTEFUL and CLASSY Wasatch Front weddings being hosted by her friends for their offspring. She then listed eight costly (my choice of words) differences between weddings in the '90s and hers 22 years ago.
In defense of many of my acquaintances whose offspring are still celebrating in "places where there are basketball hoops," I offer the following:1. Live bands are not always appreciated. The music is so loud that guests often leave because communication is impossible (and few people dance).
2. With a live band, guests often hurriedly go through the line, as it is difficult to express congratulations because of the decibel level of the music. I have observed many sign the registry and leave due to the loudness.
3. Without loud music, aunts, uncles, grandparents and friends linger to visit and enjoy the delightful atmosphere.
4. Lovely background music is furnished by instrumentalists on harps, piano or string ensembles, making the evening memorable.
5. The refreshments may not be of "Martha Stewart" quality, but the congeniality at the tables is in no way diminished.
6. A simple strawberry parfait and nut cup (even without the "dry white cake") is often appreciated as much as a turkey-filled croissant and cup of punch or an expensive buffet.
7. Centerpieces often reflect the creativity of the bride and are not the same as the last half-dozen receptions attended at the reception center.
8. The parents will not be paying for the event for the next few years -- as many do -- setting an example of financial responsibility to the newlyweds.
My sympathies go out to Ann Cannon, who, after 22 years of marriage, recalls the event of her marriage as an embarrassment as to food and dress and considers herself a former "dork" because of the event. Ann would probably consider me a dork for appreciating all receptions I attend (three or four a month), whether in an expensive reception center or in "places where there are basketball hoops."
The bride and groom are center stage for the night. I would hope in 22 years they would look back on their big event in a kinder light.
Salt Lake City