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‘Weight-loss’ shower? Readers say fat chance

Idea of giving money for new wardrobe called tacky

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Dear Abby: A woman wrote to ask you what you thought of the idea of a weight-loss shower for someone who had just shed 30 pounds. The "catch" to this shower was that the guests bring monetary gifts so the hostess could buy a new wardrobe to fit her smaller figure.

At first glance the idea seemed tacky to me. Just as with any other type of shower, it is inappropriate to specify a monetary gift in the invitation. Should someone inquire about gift ideas, the host could indicate that the honoree is trying to save up for a new wardrobe. However, there are many other suitable gifts for someone who has just lost weight. For example, guests could be asked to bring a copy of their favorite low-calorie recipes to be compiled into a scrapbook.

Losing unwanted pounds is no easy feat. If it were so easy, we would not have the obesity problems that we have in our society. I see it as an accomplishment to be proud of. Throwing someone a shower for this reason is certainly justified. — New Port Richey, Fla.

Dear New Port Richey: I love your idea about the diet-recipe shower. Yours was the most charitable response that letter generated. Read on:

Dear Abby: I have gained about 60 pounds in the past four years. Should I throw a party to give my friends the "opportunity" to "shower" me with money to buy new fat clothes? It would amount to exactly the same thing. There are already too many forced gift-giving occasions thrust upon us. My answer is: "No way. Boycott the shower!" — Fat and Sassy in Oklahoma City

Dear Abby: "Twiggy" doesn't need new clothes yet. Fifteen pounds isn't enough. Her letter takes the cake! I know she said she lost 30 pounds, but isn't it pretty clear that the other 15 pounds was her marbles?

I had an ex-in-law who gave her daughter a "shower drawing." She didn't want to make the effort to give a party, so she brought a box of envelopes to our houses so we could pick one. Inside was a photo and the price of the gift you were "asked" to buy! I drew a four-piece set of Samsonite luggage: $169.99. (This was 1966.) My husband thought we should give the bride something in which to carry her honeymoon wardrobe, so he gave her two brown paper bags. Thank goodness it was his side of the family. Needless to say, we weren't invited to the wedding. — Anonymous in Fort Worth

Dear Abby: The lady is to be congratulated for the weight loss, but she still has a lot of guts. — John in Vista, Calif.

Dear Abby: I'd tell the person who was throwing the weight-loss shower that for each 30 pounds she lost, I was donating $30 (a dollar for each pound) to the local homeless shelter. When I began losing weight, I privately vowed to put $10 in our church offering plate for each pound I lost. Twenty pounds and $200 later, the church "feed the homeless" fund is fattened, and I gladly have a slightly slimmer wallet. — Puyallup, Wash.

Dear Abby: A 30-pound weight loss? I think that's great!

It sure is hard to lose that weight.

With Weight Watchers, I've lost 23,

But all my new clothes were paid for by me.

"Pat" in our group lost 75,

And didn't ask for a "clothing drive."

But have a shower? That depends —

I'd forget the shower and keep my friends. — Dot Peterson, Millsboro, Del.

Dear Dot: Congrats on a message very well said.

I think you've hit the nail on the head!

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