PROVO, Utah — Youth of today are facing an onslaught of immoral messages, said Gary and Joy Lundberg, and, compounding the challenge of raising morally clean youth, too many parents don't know what's going on in their children's lives.
Where parents have been vague and delicate when speaking about sexual intimacy, often times beating around the bush, said Brother Lundberg, the time has come for parents to be frank. Children need to know the boundaries of proper conduct in clear statements, he said.
To illustrate, they quoted Elder Richard G. Scott of the Quorum of the Twelve in an October 1994 general conference report when he said, "Any sexual intimacy outside the bonds of marriage — I mean any intentional contact with the sacred, private parts of another's body, with or without clothing — is a sin and is forbidden by God."
Teach them "what a wonderful blessing will come by being morally clean," Sister Lundberg said. "There are many times to teach moral cleanliness."
Teaching the virtues of moral purity, she said, begins when the child is young. "Many may think little girls in bikinis at the pool are cute," she said. "But it isn't. Teach them early to be modest."
She told of the wrestle her daughter had one day years ago when a revealing one-piece bathing suit was given to her. Her daughter knew it violated the family rules of modesty. After the daughter offered all her reasons and rationale for wearing the swimsuit, Sister Lund reminded her that she knew correct principles and she now needed permission from the Lord.
After spending some time in her bedroom, the daughter emerged, more accepting and peaceful, to say that the Lord did not approve of the swimsuit.
An example of love, of seeking the Lord, will do more to help children be strong than anything, Sister Lundberg said, telling of a 14-year-old young man who said his love for the gospel stemmed from seeing his father's enthusiasm for the scriptures.
"You will be blessed when you teach the beauties of moral cleanliness," Sister Lundberg said.