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Dear Abby: New fiancee may not want ‘old’ diamond

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Dear Abby: I'm having a bit of a dilemma. About two years ago, I proposed to my girlfriend, "Gigi," and she excitedly said yes. Eventually, Gigi and I no longer saw eye-to-eye. She returned the ring, and we both went our separate ways.

About a year ago, I met a lady I'll call Angel. Her co-worker had tried to arrange it for months. When we finally met, sparks flew! I still get excited thinking about that first meeting. Anyway, Angel and I have been dating long enough that I think she is definitely "The One." I can see myself settling down with her.

Would it be appropriate to get the stones removed from the engagement ring I got back from Gigi and have them placed in another setting for Angel? The large diamond cost me almost $3,000 and, for me, that's expensive. —Ready to Cut the Cake in Louisiana

Dear Ready: There's an old saying: If you want to make rabbit stew, first catch the rabbit. Do nothing with the ring that was returned until you have discussed the matter with Angel. If Angel accepts your proposal, explain the situation and ask your fiancee what she'd prefer. But don't be surprised if she doesn't want the stone because it symbolizes a failed romance.

Your letter reminds me of an old joke my mother told me years ago. Two women were sitting next to each other at the beauty shop when one noticed that the other was wearing a large diamond ring. "Why, Mrs. Harold!" she exclaimed. "What a gorgeous diamond. Wherever did you get it?"

Her companion held out her hand and said: "Why thank you. My husband gave it to me. It's the famous Harold diamond. It has a curse on it."

"A curse?" the woman asked. "What kind of curse?"

Sighed her friend, "The curse is Harold."

Dear Abby: My sister, "Dina," turned 21 last February. She is planning to marry a wonderful, sweet guy named "Steve" in September. While I was at their apartment last week, the subject of children came up. Steve said he wanted three kids and rubbed Dina's belly. My sister just smiled.

Abby, my sister can't have children. She had a hysterectomy when she was 16. Dina apparently hasn't told him. I asked her about it, and she said she would tell Steve after the wedding. Shouldn't this be done before the wedding? —Truthful in Tennessee

Dear Truthful: Your sister's fiance should definitely be told the truth before the wedding takes place. To do otherwise could be considered fraud, and grounds for an annulment when the man finds out he was misled.

Dear Abby: I am a college student, and I often travel to and from college with my mom. On a recent trip we spent the night at a nice hotel, and some of the people on our floor were really noisy. As hotel guests, should we have knocked on their door and asked them to keep it down, or is it the hotel manager's job to keep the peace? —Wondering in Fallon, Nev.

Dear Wondering: It is hotel security whose job it is to keep the peace. If you were bothered by noise from another room, you should have called the front desk and reported the problem. Hotel staff would have taken it from there.


Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. © Universal Press Syndicate