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Connie Sokol: It doesn't all have to be done in just one day

Do you ever feel that, as a woman, you are an enduremeister? Often I see evidence that we believe we are the only ones who can get it done, and because of previous experience supporting that concept, we continue in this misconception.

For example, a few months back I had a helpful experience. A particular Monday and Tuesday were to be, in all ways, nightmares, the two busiest days of the month. The planets aligned and everything that was vital was happening then — Monday morning a photo shoot in Salt Lake City, a bit on Fox News; Tuesday was a new TV segment, guesting on a radio show, then hosting my own show in-studio from 1 to 2 p.m. All while maintaining home life.

Yes, this was unusual and, yes, just thinking about it gave me hives.

Adding to the adventure was the fact that I needed to have my hair done. Being a tomboy of sorts, I put off this little time-waster as long as possible. Alas, my hairdresser did not respond to my calls regarding the appointment for three weeks. In desperation I called a new gal at her same place and arranged for 7 a.m. the nightmare Monday morning. The choreography that went into this schedule change is hard to describe. Between my husband's arranging his schedule so he could coach the children to get ready during that hour so we could have breakfast together when I returned home and the kids could make the bus on time, and my getting things ready for this photo shoot, the events of that morning would truly boggle the mind.

I rose early, at 6:30 a.m., Monday morning, this after the night that my baby woke up EVERY HOUR, as if on cue, and finally at 5 a.m. I realized she had stuck pieces of paper and bits of crayon up her nose sometime during the previous day. In the dawn's early light, I sat with tweezers, and her head between my feet, pulling out the contraband. At 6:45 a.m., with nary an hour of sleep, I drove in the chilly weather to get the hair done.

She didn't show. I sat there waiting with great optimism and many cell-phone calls, but nothing. In fact, even days later, nothing. I am inclined at this point to share the name of the studio but will refrain. This, of course, shot the whole plan. My bangs, practically down to my nose, were in serious need of cutting or I would have to curl them into the Utah "wall of bangs." By the time I got the kids off to school and the young ones in the bath, I had 15 minutes to do my hair, makeup and load up to be in time for the photo shoot.

The point of my annoying story is this: I still thought I could do it. Even when I looked at the time and clearly saw that it would be ridiculous to attempt it, I still thought, "I can do it. I can do my makeup on the freeway as I drive. I can put rollers in my hair and just drive with them in. I can drive in my pajamas and dress at the studio." Yes, insanity had set in.

At that point I literally burst into tears and went to my only place of solace, the bathroom. After I sat for a few minutes and collected myself, I realized the following: (a) hair is annoying, (b) this was not as vital as I thought, (c) people may mock me on Fox News for Utah bangs, but what does it matter? I came out a different woman. I called the photo shoot guy and explained the hair trauma — we rescheduled. It was that simple. Instead of flying around, stressing everyone out, one simple phone call and we were back to normal. I spent the morning happily with my children until it was time to go and all was well. With the aid of an entire can of spray, the hair ended up being doable.

Sometimes I think we women are so used to enduring, to adding one more thing and feeling the responsibility to make it work, that we don't stop and ask, is there a simpler way? When we look at all that could be done why not remember: (a) We don't have to do it all and (b) it doesn't have to all be done. This week, rejoice that my life is not yours and that we have a choice: It doesn't all have to be done, not all in one day, and the hair does not have to look good doing it.

LIFETip: Decide what is vital for today and what can be rescheduled for another.

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