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Moms: Embarrassing your kids is a right and a responsibility

As the first day of school approaches, my soon-to-be first-grader has already informed us that we are to drop her off at the front of the building, not walk her to her classroom like a baby.

Stab in the heart.

This reminds me of the story I heard from page designer Laura Black last year when she took her elementary-school-aged children to their first day of school. She told her 8-year-old, Rachel, to stand by her desk and pose for a picture.

Rachel turned to her friends, rolled her eyes and said, "That's my mom, and she embarrasses me."

I asked readers of our blog, Parents Talk Back, if they also have embarrassed their children on the first day of school.

Here are some of the best responses:

"I made my kids pose for the same photo on the first day of school every year, standing in front of our front door. Even though they acted like I was killing them by making them stand there, now that my daughter's a senior in high school and my son is sophomore, they are glad I did it. I treasure those photos that show how they changed from year to year." — Amanda

"I was trying to be very brave in taking my first 'baby' to her first day of kindergarten ... but the closer I got ... well I was brave until I actually gave her to the teacher — then the tears came streaming down and wouldn't STOP! The teacher had to calm me down and assured me she would take good care of her, my daughter who is now 36 years old remembers that day like it was yesterday!" — Sandy

"I always wait at the bus stop with my son and give him a hug and tell him to have a great day when the bus comes. Today was the first day of third grade. When I went to hug my son when the bus arrived he pushed me away and said, 'Mom, please! Not now!'" — Pam

"I hate to admit it, but I actually enjoy being a little embarrassing to my kids. Lord knows that they have done the same to me, mostly by taking things I have said completely out of context and saying them very loudly to anyone that will listen! Haha. Last year I helped my oldest daughter, then in sixth grade, carry a box of donated food to her classroom. Then I made a big production about hugging her and saying I love you. There weren't many kids in the room at the time, but I got the eye roll and the evil eye anyway ... which was just what I was going for!" — jmassey4804

"... My mom really embarrassed me. My mom told the teacher I had no friends, and she told my teacher to make an announcement in my 1st grade class. My teacher told me to come to the front of the class, 'Does anybody want to be Nia's friend?' And the whole class raised their hand. OMG ... I remember that like it was yesterday. But I had friends after that. Thanks MOM. Kids appreciate it when you get older!" — Nia

"My parents never embarrassed me, but I sure did them. I used to go grocery shopping with my mom, and I would insist on carrying ALL of the bags but one to the car. She thought I was being nice, but behind her back I was staggering and dragging the bags along as people cast sympathetic glances in my direction. One day she turned around and caught me, discovering why she'd been the recipient of so many dirty looks. She yelled at me all the way home." — Jenniferwhatnot

"My dad used to dance in the car when he was driving us places — probably because we were mortified by it. Now, I love to dance and sing in the car when my kids are watching and giggling in the backseat." — Aisha Sultan

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