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McKay Coppins: The other day, I coveted

Of all the commandments we follow in the LDS Church — and there are a lot of them — one of the easiest for me always has been "Thou shalt not covet."Until two weeks ago.My wife and I went up to Roy, Utah (perhaps the most unfortunately named city in the union), where we spent the evening with one of my old Mormon mission companions and his wife.Judging by his penchant for decorating the walls of his mission apartments with flags, framed pictures and self-drawn cartoons, I always knew he had a flare for interior design. But as soon as I walked into his condo, I found myself lusting after everything he owned.Now, don't get me wrong: Annie and I have tried hard to transform our humble abode into a presentable and comfortable place to live, and I think we've done a pretty good job. But compared to my old companion's place, we might as well have been living under a bridge.Their furniture was expensive, their Blu-ray DVD collection was enormous, and their huge flat-screen TV was a sight to behold. We basically spent the whole first hour admiring the home and ignoring the hosts.On our drive back to Provo, my mind was buzzing with ideas to improve our apartment. As I listed the various projects to my wife, they kept getting bigger, more expensive and more extreme. But just as I began laying out the plans to add a third-floor tennis court (and a third floor) to our apartment, I was interrupted by a pesky, little question that was growing louder and louder in my head:How are we going to pay for this?We couldn't, of course, and so I stopped talking and drove on down the highway in despair.Then I was reminded of my dad's initial reaction when he saw the apartment Annie and I had found. He said it was an exact replica of the apartment he had coveted when he and my mom were newlyweds. They would go visit their friends there and he would get depressed that he couldn't afford a place like that."I was tempted to just go into debt and buy all the stuff our friends had, and you'll be tempted to do the same," he said. "But it's just not worth it."Worth.It seems like a word we all too often forget to consider when we're striving to keep up with the Joneses. As young newlyweds, it is extremely easy to want everything your friends have and more. Some people even go into massive amounts of debt to have the nicest car, the best apartment and the biggest TV.We forget that we still have our entire lives ahead of us, and that putting forth excessive effort to have everything we want can put an unnecessary strain on our young and still fragile relationship.So in the interest of repentance, I've decided to write off the third-floor tennis court for now, and be happy with what I have.For example, at least I don't live in a city named Roy.