Dear Angela,

My future husband’s family is not LDS, and while they are not able to attend our temple sealing, they are still excited about attending our reception, which will be held at my parents’ house. As we make preparations, we’re trying to decide if we should serve alcohol at the reception. We don't want to and we don’t drink, but it is a party, and we want everyone to feel comfortable. We recognize that traditionally alcohol is served at wedding receptions and we want to make sure our reception meets their expectations. Should we provide alcohol for the nonmembers who will be in attendance, so they can join in the celebrating?


Reception Prep Girl

Dear Reception Prep Girl,

As important as it is to ensure everybody has a great time, this is your special day and others are aware of that. Unless these people are real killjoys, you having a contented evening is more important to them than not being able to drink for one night. The reception may be different from what they are expecting, but is that such a bad thing? The new experience can give them some insight into the life you and your future husband are starting to build and what family gatherings at your house will be like in the future.

Plus, the real recipe for a great celebration? A good attitude and great people. So I say leave the alcohol at the store. Add some sparkling cider and fun drinking glasses to your reception prep list in case you'd like to toast something, pick some good music and make some memories!

Hope this helps.


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