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How performing with the Orchestra at Temple Square led one couple to marriage

Alan and Tiffany Sedgley both joined the orchestra when it was formed in 1999

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Alan and Tiffany Sedgley, who married in 2007, are both members of the Orchestra at Temple Square.

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SALT LAKE CITY — Alan and Tiffany Sedgley’s love story could make for an interesting romantic comedy someday.

They fell in love in college and dated for several years, but when he proposed, she wasn’t ready.

What held them together, and eventually led to a memorable engagement announcement, was the beautiful music they made together in the Orchestra at Temple Square.

“Frankly, the orchestra might have been the thing that kept us together,” Alan Sedgley said. “If we didn’t have the orchestra, who knows where our paths may have led? I think the fact that neither of us wanted to go anywhere, because of the orchestra and family, it was kind of the glue that held us together.”

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Alan and Tiffany Sedgley are members of the Orchestra at Temple Square.

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The Sedgleys, parents of two children, will celebrate 13 years of marriage in April 2020. In October, the couple observed the 20th anniversary of the Orchestra at Temple Square, which they both joined in 1999 when it was formed by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

This week the two musicians will be with their Orchestra at Temple Square and Tabernacle Choir family for the annual Christmas concert in the Conference Center, Dec. 12-14.

“For Alan and I, it’s been awesome to play in the orchestra together,” Tiffany Sedgley said. “The Christmas concert is going to be wonderful.”

Alan and Tiffany met in 1992 when playing for the University of Utah marching band. He was a junior who played the trumpet. She was a freshman and played the flute. They became friends and in the years that followed, began to date almost exclusively, he said.

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Alan Sedgley plays the trumpet in the Orchestra for Temple Square.

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“Neither us were wanted to get married while in school,” Alan Sedgley said. “(The relationship) didn’t progress but it never went south either.”

When the church formed the Orchestra at Temple Square in 1999, they both auditioned and made it.

About a year later, Tiffany Sedgley said, her boyfriend proposed but it didn’t go so well.

“There was a ring and she said yes, but then she kind of had a little bit of a freak out because she wasn’t keen to change,” Alan Sedgley said. “She kept the ring and we kept dating. I said, ‘Look, when you’re ready, let me know.’”

“I wasn’t ready,” she admitted.

For the next few years, the couple continued to court as they performed on tours with the Tabernacle Choir and Orchestra at Temple Square in different cities around the United States.

The turning point came in 2006 when they decided to receive their endowments at the Jordan River Temple. Tiffany Sedgley recalls a friend saying, “Once you go through the temple together, you guys are going to get married.” That’s pretty much what happened, she said.

One night in November 2006, Tiffany asked Alan out. She took him to dinner, followed by a carriage ride and a walk to the reflection pool in front of the Salt Lake Temple in the rain, where she got down on one knee at popped the question.

“I thought it was only appropriate after he proposed the first time that I should do it the second time,” Tiffany Sedgley said.

At that point, Alan Sedgley told her to get up so he could propose. This time her answer was a solid “yes.”

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Alan and Tiffany Sedgley on their wedding day at the Salt Lake Temple in April 2007.

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The Tabernacle Choir and Orchestra at Temple Square had announced plans for a tour to Canada and the Midwest for 2007, so Barry Anderson, an administrative manager for the orchestra, had some fun by telling the large group at a rehearsal that a roommate change on the upcoming tour was necessary — Alan and Tiffany are officially engaged, he said.

The news was received with a standing ovation.

“It was an eruption of people yelling and screaming because they all knew us,” Alan Sedgley said. “It was pretty funny.”

The couple, then in their mid-30s, were married in April 2007. The ceremony was performed by the late Mac Christensen, then president of the Tabernacle Choir, in the Salt Lake Temple. They honeymooned in Hawaii, then got a second honeymoon with the tour.

“That was a special tour,” Alan Sedgley said.

Over the years the Sedgleys have continued to play in the orchestra and have no plans to leave. Even with two children, a 10-year-old son and a 5-year-old daughter, family members help when needed. Alan makes a living as a piano salesman and Tiffany is an adjunct assistant professor of the flute in the University of Utah School of Music.

Not only does he admire her musical talents, but Alan Sedgley is constantly impressed by his wife’s outgoing, personable manner.

“She is a friend to everybody,” he said. “She can strike a conversation with anybody and sees the good in people.”

Tiffany Sedgley says her husband is always putting her needs before his own. He has a sharp memory and his musical aptitude is “fantastic,” she said.

Most importantly, he’s one resolute man, she said.

“He was willing to wait a very long time to get married,” Tiffany Sedgley said with a laugh. “He’s been very patient with me.”

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Alan and Tiffany Sedgley with their children.

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In 2014, the Muppets from Sesame Street were invited to be the guest artists for the Christmas concert and children 5 and older were invited to attend. This meant the Sedgleys’ son could attend the concert and have a new experience with his parents.

“The orchestra is a pretty big sacrifice of your time,” Alan Sedgley said. “This gave us something we could show our son and say, ‘Hey, this is what mom and dad do when they go away for two or three hours on a Thursday night or Sunday morning.’ It was very special to us.”

The couple’s long-term relationship and time with the orchestra has blessed Alan’s life in another way.

Although raised in the church, Alan Sedgley wasn’t active in the Latter-day Saint faith until his college years when dating his future wife. He wrestled with the decision to serve a mission but had a spiritual experience in which he felt impressed to wait. He was directed to continue his music studies and prepare for future missionary service. His opportunity eventually came as a musical missionary in the orchestra, he said.

“This was years before the orchestra was even conceived,” Alan Sedgley said. “This was the direction that took me and so I didn’t serve a (regular full-time) mission, but I stayed with the church and got stronger spiritually. The rest is missionary history.”

Could their love story be a romantic comedy, or even a musical, on the big screen? Maybe, the Sedgleys agree, but not likely.

“Music brought us closer together, it’s a big part of lives,” Alan Sedgley said. “People could make a movie about our relationship, but the rest of our lives are pretty boring.”