My journey to motherhood was not an easy one. It was a journey riddled with miscarriages, invasive medical tests, fertility treatments, surgery and heartache. I would be lying if I said the whole experience didn’t traumatize me. Even more than two years after completing my family, the nightmares still haunt me at night. There are just some scars that will never heal.
Another legislative session is here in Utah and lawmakers are again dragging miscarriages and stillbirths back into the abortion debate, with another law targeting fetal remains (“Utah lawmaker wants it illegal to transfer fetal remains outside of state other than for burial,” Jan. 25). I see what lawmakers are doing: They are trying to tiptoe around challenges to bills intended to stop abortions. One way is to simply add miscarriage into the language to make the bill not look like an anti-abortion bill.
Now this bill is not as egregious as an Ohio governor’s proposal to force doctors to reimplant ectopic pregnancies (also miscarriages) a few years back, but the proposal is equally as painful. Dragging miscarriages into bills that will undoubtedly become news headlines opens the wounds of thousands of women here in the state who have suffered a miscarriage — many in silence. I can assure you that none of us have the emotional bandwidth to become political chess pawns, nor do we want to. These women are your sisters, cousins, colleagues and friends.
So please stop. Keep miscarriages out of the abortion debate.