This is in response to the "name withheld" letter printed March 21. I must contest his/her definition of homosexuality. I checked with Webster and the dictionary agrees with me: Homosexual is defined by "desire," not an "act." Perhaps the writer cannot conceive of anybody having desires for someone of the same sex.
For my own part, I can't understand at all why most men are attracted to women and vice versa. I do know that it happens because I hear of people falling in love and getting married all the time.I must admit being confused that name withheld's younger brother had "chosen" to live that alternate lifestyle. I don't choose who I want to be attracted to, and I doubt whether anyone at all does. Not a single one of the dozens of gay people I have ever met chose to become gay; they only became aware of their feelings of attraction as they grew up.
I also can't imagine why a gay man would enter a heterosexual marriage. I agree there is far too much sexual promiscuity among homosexuals, but it also exists among heterosexuals, although here in Utah we are fortunate to have a higher degree of morality.
I know of several male couples who enjoy fidelity, monogamy and all the benefits of a married relationship save the legal papers. That is the kind of relationship I want for myself.
I can only guess that name withheld had his/her name withheld due to embarrassment about his/her gay brother. I'm withholding mine because it would cause major problems at home if my parents knew I am gay.
Name withheld