What is it about our personalities that cause us to put our heads in the sand and refuse to look at the issues? We do this with our homes, our families, our finances, our health and with our Body Clutter! I am one of you, and I will always be. This has been one of the hardest areas for me to let go.
It wasn't until I was faced with a major health issue that I started to look hard at what I was doing to myself by ignoring all the signs. You know those signs. We have all had those disapproving eyes glare at us in a doctor's office when the doctor saw the number from the scale on our chart. I have even refused to look at that number.
In Baltimore for our FLY Fest, I was able to stand on a stage and tell the world that number. For me that 272-pound number was a sign that I had allowed that Ostrich syndrome of putting my head in the sand to hurt me. It was time for me to quit abusing myself! After all this is the only body I am ever going to have. This is when I started to become a scientist when it comes to my weight.
I developed a chart to help me to see if the techniques that my doctor and Leanne (The Dinner Diva) were helping me to learn were working. My scale became my friend. That number between my toes was no long a condemnation of who I am, but it was a guide to help me verify if what I was doing was working and the flip side of that coin — if what I was doing was not working. It is important that you only weigh once a day, and you do that when you first get up as part of your morning routine.
Releasing Body Clutter is not just about getting rid of weight. It is about letting go of the mental strings that attach those pounds to our bodies and hold them there. If we don't address those issues head-on we will be doomed to that never-ending cycle of "Crisis Cleaning, Crash and Burn" and gaining it all back. We have done this with our homes as well as our bodies. You know the drill; your mother is coming and you have to clean like crazy to get the house ready. You rake every thing off of every flat surface in your home and stash it in your bedroom. Then, after your mother leaves, the house gets trashed again.
We do this all the time with other areas of our life; you know that "crash diet" to get ready for a wedding or the beach. After the event is over, all that Body Clutter is put back in place on our hips and backsides, because we did not establish routines for keeping it at bay. It is our routines that give us the power to face our clutter and that most personal of all clutter; our Body Clutter!
I want you to make peace with your scale and use it to help you and not condemn you! I weigh ever single morning. I can look at my little chart and see if I ate enough fiber yesterday or if I did not drink my water. After using this chart, I have been able to put the pieces together and understand my body better. Our book "Body Clutter" helps you to understand this more, along with our Body Clutter Control Journal and Leanne's Body Clutter Menu Mailer.
Here is a link to our Body Clutter Investigator and the BabyStep Pledge to Release Your Body Clutter. They are in our Body Clutter Control Journal, but we put them on the Web site for everyone to be able to make as many copies as they need. They are: www.flylady.net/images/bc_release.pdf and: www.flylady.net/images/bc_investigator.pdf
"Body Clutter" is now available on our Web site. This book has been a labor of love for Leanne, my editor Kelly Burns and me. We are so excited for you to finally have it and use it. We can't wait to hear what you think about it!
Are you ready to FLY by Loving your Body?
Marla Cilley, a k a FlyLady, is the author of Sink Reflections (Bantam Books Trade Paperback). For more help, please go to her Web site: www.FlyLady.net. © 2005