Dear Angela:
I think I'm giving up on bridal showers. I would like to support young women in their nuptials, especially as they are soon to be sealed in the temple. Sounds wonderful! So I go to the bridal shower with my "let's help you start a home" gift in hand. All the women 35 and older are also bringing home-building gifts. But the women 35 and younger bring nothing but intimate apparel. One shower I attended recently had 20 women in attendance and half brought gifts of very intimate clothing or sexy sleepwear. It's like they want the future bride to get ready for a career in pole dancing. And the comments get more and more sleazy as the evening wears on. What is the purpose of bridal showers anymore?
Sincerely,
New Mexico Sister
Dear New Mexico Sister,
Marriage is a beautiful and sacred promise between two people, so I understand your sensitivities in a situation like this. These women are probably just excited for each other but are not communicating their excitement in the most "For the Strength of Youth" pamphlet-worthy ways. Still, don't take on the role of bridal shower police. You're an invited guest, after all.
Enjoy the party for as long as it's enjoyable. If and when things become sleazy, politely excuse yourself with a hug and a thank you and be on your merry way.
You can only control what you can control.
Love,
Angela
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