A 16-year-old Salt Lake girl was recounting Friday her relationship with a man she learned is accused of murder. And an Illinois woman breathed sighs of relief knowing the same man, accused of stabbing and beating her parents to death, was finally in custody.

Richard J. Church, 22, was remanded to state custody by a federal magistrate Friday, awaiting extradition requests by Illinois police after being arrested at his Salt Lake apartment Thursday morning by the FBI and Salt Lake police.He called his employer from jail to apologize for the trouble his unfolding story was surely causing them: He is wanted for the murder three years ago of a Woodstock, Ill., couple - the parents of his former girlfriend, Colleen Ritter.

Ritter has spent the past three years wondering if Church would return. "I was scared when I came home at night and put the car in the garage," she said. "I was scared when I shut the door and had to walk to the house in the dark. I was scared when I slept. I always had to look behind my back."

Engaged to be married, the 22-year-old Ritter now says she can begin to put the horror behind her. "I can see an end to all this."

In Salt Lake City, Church has gone by the name Danny Lee Carson. He lived a quiet life and worked in two restaurants in the Crossroads Plaza where Salt Lake Police detective Craig Park recognized him as a fugitive while eating lunch at the mall Wednesday.

A 16-year-old Salt Lake girl who dated Church for four months said he was an extremely nice person but had a temper and would seldom mention anything about his past.

"Back when I was going out with him, he was nice, sensitive and really sweet," she said. The girl spoke to the Deseret News on condition of anonymity.

The girl said she met Church - whom she knew only as Danny Carson - while he was working at The Broiler. After they began dating, she'd ask him how old he was and he'd only reply "over 21." She somehow convinced a manager to check his employment file, which indicated he was 33. She found out Thursday, however, that he is actually 22.

It was Church's claim of being 33 on state identification records that helped strengthen the detective's theory that the food outlet cashier had another identity.

The Salt Lake girl broke up with Church about a month ago, mostly because they were "too opposite." "When I told him it was over, he almost cried," she said.

But he also got angry. "I can say he has a really bad temper."

Whenever the two of them argued, she said he would yell and get "a look in his eye." But she emphasized that he never physically hurt her or threatened her. After a fight, he would walk away to cool off and then return and apologize.

"He'd mention that he did not want to hurt me in any way," she said.

On Aug. 21, 1988, Ritter, then 17, was stabbed 22 times and beaten after her parents were killed while they were sleeping. Her 10-year-old brother was also beaten and stabbed. She remained in a coma for three weeks after the attack.

Church called his employer Thursday night from the Salt Lake County Jail. Church, the fugitive whose arrest had garnered nationwide publicity that day, slipped back into his Salt Lake City alias to apologize.

"This is Danny," the caller said. He was crying when he spoke to Donna Diamond, who got to know him while working together at Bennett's Pit Bar-B-Que and The Broiler restaurants.

"He just wanted to talk and wanted us to know that he loved us," Diamond told the Deseret News. "We all got close to him.

"He was just saying he was sorry we were going to have to go through what we were going through," Diamond said. "It made me feel like Danny loved this area and loved us as much as we loved him."

Church apparently did not talk about his past or his current predicament during the phone call. "I think he just needed to know we were still there now that we found out about this horrible thing. Maybe he needs to know there's somebody out there who loves him."

Woodstock, Ill., police were in Salt Lake Friday pursuing Church's extradition back to Illinois.

If Church fights the extradition, Illinois' request to take him would have to be approved by Gov. Norm Bangerter, said Assistant Attorney General Rick Wyss. "But the way the interstate compact works now is that you cannot turn another extradition request down. If they request extradition, you have to grant it."

Finding a discrepancy between a prisoner's identity and the identity of the wanted person, or finding a deficiency in the warrant form the only grounds for denying an extradition request, Wyss said.