<strong>We feel very grateful to have Addy as our daughter. If she had been born even 50 years ago, we know that she would not still be with us and we try to not take any time with her for granted.</strong> – Brendalyn Hacking

PROVO — There’s an exactness to Mike Reid. It earned him the nickname “Radar” on the PGA Tour and as late as this past week, playing in a charity event at Riverside Country Club, legendary football coach LaVell Edwards jokingly referred to this trait when asked how Reid played during a four-man scramble.

“He’s working on his drives,” said Edwards. “He’s a couple of yards off center in the fairway.”

The former BYU All-American and two-time winner on the PGA Tour was the first Tour player to earn a million dollars in prize money prior to winning an event. He most recently teamed with Utah’s Dan Forsman to tie for 10th in the Bass Pro Shops Legends of Golf on April 26.

Folks in town are accustomed to seeing Reid, 60, all over Utah County, beating balls at the range at Riverside, chipping around practice greens and occasionally making appearances here and there.

Then he disappeared.

It was as if an alien spaceship beamed him up from his beautiful home in the heart of Orem six years ago.

What happened was family. His wife, his daughter and her daughter encountered a hurdle, an instance when the eye of life blinks in slow motion and the world changes. A newborn baby arrived and it was a clarion call for all hands on deck.

Reid’s oldest child, Brendalyn Hacking, now 34, of Hampstead, Maryland, was about to give birth in November 2007. Mike and his wife, Randolyn, had just been back in Maryland for the Constellation Energy Classic. Two days before the birth of Addelyn Elise Hacking, on Nov. 6, Randolyn flew in to be at the hospital. Nothing seemed wrong.

A few months later, Mike was playing at the Senior PGA Championship in Rochester, New York, their oldest son Daniel was finishing an LDS mission in nearby Connecticut, and another daughter, Lauren, who was living back east, all gathered for the first time in three years. It was then that Randolyn noticed something was not right with little Addy.

“She couldn’t focus and couldn’t look at me. It’s hard to explain, I just knew things were not developing normally,” said Randolyn. Shortly after, Addy began having convulsions.

At nine months, doctors diagnosed little Addy with Infantile Spasms (aka West syndrome), a rare debilitating seizure disorder that only occurs in children under 2.

Mike and Randolyn discussed how they could help Bren and her husband Chad with Addy. The pull was strong to move to Maryland. Moving would disrupt the life they’d built in Orem and their younger of six children, John, 14, and Hannah, 11, were anchored with school and friends. Mike knew the life of a kid moving around because his father had been in the Air Force and his nomadic life had taken him from school to school and coast to coast as a child.

John, who’d heard his mother crying on the phone many times, wanted to move. He lobbied and led the decision to pack up and head East. During a family meeting to decide whether to move or not, John thought of it as an adventure that would bring him closer to his family and to his Savior, Jesus Christ.

Those words from her son were the closer. I’m out of here, then, said Randolyn. Her maternal instincts were through the roof. She remembers her daughter saying during one of her toughest times that it seemed all she could do was keep Addy alive — at everything else in her life she felt she was failing.

“Brendalyn had almost no sleep for one and a half years,” said Randolyn.

When their daughter called to announce Addy's diagnosis, it was traumatic.“Mom, she may never walk, talk or feed herself,” said their oldest.

“Well, we will be there. I’ll fly back every month if I have to,” said the mother.

“Oh, and by the way,” said the daughter. “I’m pregnant again.”

“My job is portable,” said Mike. “I can work from anywhere and so my career in golf wasn’t going to be impacted that much and many of our tour events are back East.” (He did have to find new practice digs.)

“John, Hannah and I left for Maryland the first week of January 2009,” said Randolyn. “Mike joined us three weeks later when he had a week off. He drove a moving truck with a few belongings. Our plan was to stay six months, help them through another pregnancy and all the appointments Addy was having. Her sister Olivia was born May 11, 2009. We ended up staying six years.”

In the ensuing years, at times when Addy cried, it was her Uncle John who seemed to be the only one who could comfort her.

Addy had seizures two dozen times a day and many different treatments did not end them. She was then considered a candidate for brain surgery to try to cure the seizures. She underwent a hemispherectomy at Children's National Medical Center in Washington, D.C., on July 19, 2010.

“She was also recently diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes in January 2014. She will need insulin to keep her alive for the rest of her life,” said Brendalyn.

“We feel very grateful to have Addy as our daughter. If she had been born even 50 years ago, we know that she would not still be with us and we try to not take any time with her for granted,” said Brendalyn. Addy, 8, is in first grade right now and takes time out for special needs education. She does walk, she does talk and she does feed herself.

Mike and Randolyn moved to an apartment in Provo this past fall and are trying to sell their home in Maryland. That sense of permanency they had 10 years ago is still on the horizon. John is on an LDS mission in San Jose, California, and Hannah, who returned to Orem before her parents, will graduate from Orem High on May 29.

Mike Reid borrowed a golf metaphor to put this story in perspective.

“Not every drive goes down the middle and not every shot goes on the green. In the context of family life, when something unexpected happens like this you just look at what lies in front of you, try to exercise a little faith, make the best decisions you can and go forward. It’s not unlike hitting the ball off line in golf. You figure there’s a way to get the ball back on the green and recover, even if you don’t know how.”

Reid said when you try to do the right thing, things might not turn out for Plan A so you may have to go to Plan B and sometimes Plan C comes into play. “Sometimes other people show up unexpectedly and things turn out better than you ever expected,” said Mike.

“Addy is a cute little girl and she’s happy all the time” he added. “She’s an inspiration. I think Brendalyn and Chad will tell you she’s more work, but she’s a light. She’s happy and fun to be around. She’s a step slow because of what she’s encountered in her life, but she is an inspiration and we just love her.”

Brendalyn and Chad Hacking have had great support from both their parents in this challenge.

“We think the greatest thing we have learned from this and from our parents, is that parents will do whatever it takes, sacrifice everything from time, money and sleep for the well-being of their children,” said Brendalyn.

“My parents have been a wonderful example of quietly sacrificing and striving for our family. We have learned that we are not alone in our trials and that some petitions to heaven are answered by those who prioritize serving mankind over comfort and rest.”

And for those of us who wonder where Mike Reid disappeared to for half a decade, this is the story.

When duty as a father or mother calls, what do you do?

For the Reids, whatever it takes.

Dick Harmon, Deseret News sports columnist, can be found on Twitter as Harmonwrites and can be contacted at dharmon@desnews.com.